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Sex   Introduction

It would appear that casual sex among young people is common. This view is supported through research which demonstrates increasing rates of sexually transmitted infection and unplanned teenage pregnancy among young people. We live in a society which is generally very open-minded about sex. The media often portrays the impression that being sexually active within your relationships is normal and that if you are not sexually active then you're odd. Remember that everybody is different and has differing goals in life. Some people are ready for relationships sooner than others - this is NORMAL.

Often young people are confused about what they really want in a relationship. Before you decide to have sex you should consider some issues around your life and your relationship with your partner. Many adults have very clear views on how young people should act and conduct their relationships, however what other people think is not important, it is what you think. It is for you to decide what you want in a relationship and for you to work this out based on your attitudes, values, moral and religious beliefs.

A relationship should make you feel good about yourself. It should make you feel happy, loved and respected. It should always respect your dignity. Personal boundaries in all relationships are essential and should always be respected. Before you decide to be sexually active here are some questions you should consider :

  • Do I want to be sexually active ?
  • Do I want to be sexually active within this current relationship ?
  • What qualities do I consider important within a loving relationship ?
  • Who / What influences my choice of qualities ?
  • What is my definition of love ?
  • What values are important to me ?
  • What are my long term goals for my life ?
  • What are the consequences if I have sex in this relationship ?
Remember it always helps to talk to someone you can trust if you are feeling confused and unsure about what to do. For example, you could talk to your parents, one of your teachers, a youth worker, a brother, or sister or a good friend. The important thing is to think clearly before you act thereby making an informed decision. GOOD LUCK !